Breaking Free from Judgment: Choosing Where Your Energy Goes
Isn’t it a pain when annoying things happen, and you feel your personal comfort shaken by other people's behavior? Yep, welcome to my world of 'me vs. other people doing things that annoy me’. I just want to relax and be comfortable. I thought it was about other people changing themselves for me. But no it wasn’t, it was about me making the change within my very own brain. Changing this sounds easy right? It sure isn’t. This is the type of pattern I’m talking about: I see something. A thought arises. I attach an emotional judgment to the thought. Off I go on the Emotional Train. Let's use an example: What I Observe: Someone driving fast in a car. Thought: "Fast driving car." Emotional Judgment: "What an idiot! Can't they see what they're doing?" Emotional Train: I spend the next few minutes focusing all my available time and energy on watching the car and judging the driver. Now, you might ask, "Well, why is this a problem?". I’ve ...